Pegging

Purported as the sex act of our times, pegging is having a moment. It has been touted as empowering, proof of just how far gender equality has come. Women aren’t just wearing the trousers, they are wearing the cock itself. However, while it certainly is a delectably hot way to feel close to a partner, pegging is positively Paleolithic. Archeologists have literally unearthed a double-ended dildo that dates back to c.10,000 BC. For those finding themselves bumboozled, pegging is defined as “a sexual practice in which a woman performs anal sex on a man by penetrating his anus with a strap-on dildo.” 

The strap-on has reared its head regularly throughout history. From Greek 5th century poet Hipponax immortalising pegging in his writing to dildo-centric tales told via papyrus in Ancient Egypt to Utigawa Sadashige’s Shunga print (c.1825) of the use of a harigata (dildo) in a MFF threesome, pegging has been a long standing affair internationally.

With a breadcrumb trail of dildos over thousands of years, and very little modernisation to design (a 10th-13th century double-ended jade dildo doesn’t look too dissimilar to this Vixen Creation beauty, how can pegging feel so modern? Well, much like fashion, sexual practice goes through its own trends. And, after a steady rise in interest around anal play on heterosexual men from the late 1990s, we can thank that Broad City episode in 2015 for pushing pegging to the foreground. It is no longer seen solely as a BDSM act where a Domme takes her submissive man anally, instead it is utilised as an additional form of intimacy between couples, much like any other form of sex, whether penetrative or not. 

It is the intimacy of pegging that I love the most. There is little that I find as intimate as strapping myself into my harness, carefully selecting a dildo to slot into it, and lubing myself up as my male partner watches on with an expression depicting a combination of anticipation and vulnerability. 

And vulnerable it is. The anus is a tender, sensitive place that needs to be treated with the utmost care and patience. Every body is unique and responds to penetration differently. As the penetrator, it takes experience and a certain level of intuitiveness to navigate the delicate sensibilities of anal play. No matter the level of experience of the person who is being pegged. Beginners need plenty of warming up ahead of dildo-use, and perhaps will need several anal-training sessions prior to the use of a strap-on. Anal training can be performed through prostate massage with fingers, and butt plugs that increase in width or other anal training toys. Whereas while the more experienced penetratee will often be able to receive a (well-lubed!) dildo straight away, sometimes they too will be in need of some gentle warming up first. Some days they may even not feel able to take their regular size, or will be too tense to receive a strap-on, and will need to stick to fingers. What matters the most is being attuned to your play partner and reading their cues to make sure the experience is the most pleasurable and satisfying it can be for them. 

I’ve been often asked where my own enjoyment lies in the pegging experience, as because I am not being obviously stimulated myself – how could it be pleasurable? But it is, immensely. Not only is being in tune with someone to such a fine degree incredibly sensual, but penetrating a man – switching roles – is heightened eroticism for me. And the stimulation isn’t solely mental, a strap-on harness provides a certain degree of pressure that, with thrusting, does wonders for me physically too. I have found that with plenty of sexual build-up and foreplay, I can even come when a session involves pegging. It’s the perfect climactic ending to a date for all involved.